Wouldn’t it be fantastic if our relationships came with a built-in “check engine” light? Just imagine, a little warning sign popping up when something isn’t quite right, signaling us and making it obvious the need to pull over and assess the situation. We could grab our relationship tool kit and get to work, fixing those little hiccups before they turn into major breakdowns.

Sometimes, it might just be a minor glitch, like one partner needing a little extra TLC or a gentle nudge to communicate better. Other times, it could be a more serious issue, like trust being shattered or betrayal lurking in the shadows. In those cases, we might have to bring in the relationship mechanics and decide if it’s worth salvaging or if it’s time to send it to the relationship junkyard.

But let’s face it, in reality, we often ignore that pesky “check engine” light in our relationships. The signals are there, but we often to choose to ignore them. We just keep cruising along, pretending everything is fine, or we start pointing fingers and placing blame on the other person. And sometimes, we even trade in our significant other for a shiny new model without even checking if the old one could have been fixed.

Oh, how convenient it would be to have that warning light to remind us to slow down, take a closer look, and give our relationships the attention they deserve. The triggers in connections are precisely the signals we need to be aware of, to catch the problem before it escalates into a disaster. Taking a proactive approach, paying attention to subtle signs, and being willing to put in the effort to nurture our relationships with ourselves and others are essential for fulfillment and personal growth. Unsaid words and miscommunication don’t simply disappear; they linger in our minds and bodies, becoming heavier over time. Remember, silence creates distance, and unresolved concerns or unexpressed pain eventually find their way into our hearts and souls, breeding resentment and bitterness. It’s important to choose action! Whether it’s recognizing a red flag during the early stages of dating or addressing a major concern in a deeper connection, speak up. Make the choice to take action rather than hoping the issue will resolve itself, because it won’t—it never does.