Just a few days ago, I had the opportunity to overhear a group of girls sitting at the next table while I was having lunch with a friend at a restaurant. Although their loud conversation was initially annoying and inconsiderate, I couldn’t help but see it as a stroke of luck as a dating coach working with men. They were discussing their recent dates and sharing some intriguing details. I eagerly listened, hoping to gather valuable feedback and insights that I could pass on to my clients.
There were three women in this group in their late 20s to early 30s. As they described their recent dates, all three of them emphasized the importance of a man’s appearance—not the looks they were born with, but how well-dressed and put-together he appeared. One of them mentioned being turned off by her date’s lack of attention to his appearance. Despite having an interesting conversation, she couldn’t help but notice his unkept nails and neglected skin. She expressed her disappointment, saying, “I don’t understand why guys don’t take care of their nails and skin.”
It was evident that her date possessed the intelligence to engage in meaningful conversation. However, he had overlooked the importance of presenting himself well and hadn’t made any effort to be well-groomed. He failed to know how much attention women pay to these details and how vital it is to have both your physical and mental self well put-together if you want to establish a genuine connection. This complaint is not uncommon among women, and as a dating coach, I always emphasize the crucial importance of body care to my male clients. Women notice even the smallest details, and something that may seem insignificant to a man—like grooming his nails and maintaining healthy skin—is highly important to a woman.
Men must remember that women are biologically wired to seek a sense of security and protection from a man. If a man neglects something as simple as his nails and skin, it raises questions about the security he can provide. While this may not be a deal-breaker for every woman, a man automatically becomes more attractive, regardless of his inherent physical features, when he takes care of his body. So why take the risk of turning off a woman by neglecting self-care? Women appreciate men who dress nicely, and that doesn’t mean wearing suits all the time. It simply means putting effort into finding your own style, wearing clean and well-fitting outfits, and taking care of your skin and nails. These things do not go unnoticed by women. They pay attention to the shoes a man wears. Investing in a few pairs of non-sneaker, elegant shoes can make a man stand out from the crowd. It’s even better if a man doesn’t wear jeans on initial dates. While jeans may be comfortable, they don’t leave a lasting impression on a woman. A woman will look at a well-dressed and put-together date and perceive him as confident person who got his life together. This has a much higher chance of translating into a sense of security.
If you want to form a connection with a healthy woman, make sure you project the same image—taking care of your outer appearance is just as important as taking care of your inner balance.